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LESSONS LEARNED FROM MY DEBUT NOVEL Collab with Bethany Atazadeh

January 18, 2018

Hi you guys, today I have a very special video for you! I've collaborated with fellow writer and YouTuber Bethany Atazadeh about the lessons we learned from writing and publishing our debut novel.  I have self-published three books and therefore, I've learned very valuable lessons. If you're a writer be sure to watch this video as it could help you in making some final decisions during your own writing and publishing process.

Also, if you want a little help and want to start aligning with your own purpose, then check out my book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principles for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave. It's a perfect place to start considering your thoughts and the way you live your life.

 

Till Next Time!
 

HOW TO GET READY FOR THE WORKING WEEK/SUNDAY NIGHT PAMPERING

January 16, 2018

A way to have a great start to your working week, is by preparing for it on Sunday night. For me, this often means a night of pampering. In today's video, I share with you my self-care routine that helps me center myself, helps me relax and helps me disconnect from worry. Take a look.

Another way to make sure you're ready for the working week is to read or listen to a book that will get your mind thinking in a positive way. If you're in the market for such a book, I want to invite you to check out my book, #Believe Dammit: 10 Principles for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave. It's a perfect place to start considering your thoughts and the way you live your life.

 
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HOW TO CREATE A ROAD MAP TO REACH YOUR GOALS 2018

January 11, 2018

The first thing to have when setting goals is clarity. But that’s not enough, in order to reach all our goals we have to be clear on the steps we need take. In today’s video I show you how to create a road map for your goals. Swing by :)

 

 

Also, if you want a little help and want to start aligning with your own purpose, then check out my book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principles for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave. It's a perfect place to start considering your thoughts and the way you live your life.

 

FIRST STEP IN PLANNING YOUR GOALS IN 2018

January 4, 2018

Happy New Year everyone! We are 4 days into the New Year, and many of us are still trying to figure out our goals and the best way to approach them. Well, in today's video I share the #1 piece of advice I've received from mentors and teachers regarding the action of setting and achieving goals. To learn what this #1 advice is, swing by this week's video.

 

 

Also, if you want a little help and want to start aligning with your own purpose, then check out my book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principles for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave. It's a perfect place to start considering your thoughts and the way you live your life.

 

 

HOW TO GET CLEAR ON YOUR GOALS IN 2018

December 14, 2017

Did you know that we're  always moving in the direction that causes us less pain? Say what...

I know what you’re thinking, nope! That’s definitely not true because every day I go to my God-awful-dead-end job, which is most definitely causing me pain. If that were true, then, I’d be moving in the direction of my dream job instead of my job.

Well hold on now, I don’t disagree that you may perceive your situation as painful. But the truth is that no matter how painful your job may be, something in your perception of your dream job is actually MORE painful than your current job/situation.  An example, please? Coming your way.

Let us take the above example. You hate your job and you want to quit and start your own business. So why aren’t you just moving in the direction of starting your business, or why don’t you have it already? One reason could be because even though you HATE your job (pain) the thought of the instability that comes with starting your business is more painful. Therefore, as long as you have that belief you will NEVER achieve your goal of starting your own business. So, if you're wondering how you can start to overcome this mindset, I've got three simple tips for you.

If you’re more visual and would like to see the YouTube video on this topic go here:

Here are three tips to help get clear:
 
Tip #1: Identify:
 
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Analyze your wants and desires, is there an area in your life that you constantly struggle with and can’t seem to get it right, maybe it’s your career or your exercise regimen or your love life. Whatever it is, you first have to get clear.
 
Tip #2: Get real:
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Now that you have decided what you want to improve, now it’s time to understand why you don’t have it. What is the “story” you have been telling yourself about why you can’t or don’t have “it.” For example, if you find yourself writing down, I’m out of shape because I have no time to exercise; now you know why you are out of shape, because in your eyes, you literally have no time.
 
Tip #3: Change your story:
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Here’s where the magic happens, in sticking with the above example, tell yourself this, I have all the time I need to fit-in my exercise routine so that I can accomplish my desired goal.

If you’re getting some mental resistance on step 3, think about it this way. Really? You have noooooo time? There is no way you have noooooo time. In reality, you are choosing to have no time. You can wake up 30 minutes earlier, or you can skip your favorite TV show, or you can take your full one hour lunch, and split it and walk for 30 minutes. You see, where there’s a will, there a way.

My point is this, in doing the above steps you shouldn't lie to yourself. During these steps you should acknowledge the lies/stories that have been preventing you from having the life you want. By doing so, you will move past the excuses and right into results.

 
If you want a little help and want to start aligning with your own purpose, then check out my book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principles for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave. It's a perfect place to start considering your thoughts and the way you live your life.
 
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Until Next Time!
 

HOW TO WRITE A BOOK

December 7, 2017

Hi everyone, I hope you’re having an amazing December thus far! Today, I’m tackling the broad topic of How to Write a Book. There are many things that go into writing a book, but I believe there are specific things that one needs to consider right from the start. Here are my top five tips on what you will need to do if you want to write a book. Make sure you read all the way to the end because I have a special treat for you.

If you’re more visual and would like to see the YouTube video on this topic go here:

Tip #1 Decide On Your Age Group

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You may not realize how important it is to have this part clear as water, but I assure you that your entire story weighs heavily on your target audience. Having a clear understanding on who you’re writing for will help you create the perfect plot and sub-plots. Without knowing this, you could be setting your novel up to fail before it even gets a chance. For example, if you’re writing for middle grade and young adult, your language, your subject matter, sexual content, and age of the protagonist are all important to the story. Without knowing your age group, it will be difficult to know what to include or exclude in your story.

Tip #2: Plot Ideas

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I recommend that you write down all your plot ideas for a birds-eye view. By doing so, you’ll be able to see which plot ideas you can easily develop into a full novel and which plot ideas work well together to make as sub-plots.

Tip #3: Create Character Profiles

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Creating my characters is by far my favorite part of starting a new book. Creating profiles is fun and an essential part of your story because you must know them in detail in order to create strong and believable characters.

Tip #4: Outline Your Novel

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As I stated in my blog How to Outline Using Index Cards, there are some of us that outline and some of us that don’t. However, if this is your first time writing a book, I recommend that you outline your novel. By doing so, you’ll avoid problems such as plot wholes and pacing. The benefit of doing so is also that you’ll have a strong novel, with fully developed characters and story lines that will hit all the important parts of a novel, such as, your inciting incident, climax and conclusion. For more on this you can watch my YouTube video Outlining with Index Cards.

Tip #5: Write the First Draft

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After you’ve done the above 4 steps, then it’s time to start writing. A really helpful tip I heard recently is that writing that first draft is you telling the story to yourself. I thought this was a great tip because it eliminates some of the pressure that comes with writing a book. Remember, above all, have fun in the process. Try to forget about the end product (the destination) and enjoy the process (the journey) of writing your book .

To help you stay on track, I created a checklist so that you don’t miss a beat while writing your first book. If you would like to get your copy click here for instant access.

If you haven’t done so already, I would love for you to hop on over to my YouTube channel and subscribe. I share weekly tips on writing, publishing and living with joy.

Also, if you’re passionate about setting and reaching goals, my book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principle for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave is the perfect companion for you as you will learn valuable lessons that will help you reach all your goals.

Until Next Time!

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HOW TO WRITE DIALOGUE

November 30, 2017

Happy last day of November! I hope you had an amazing month filled with gratitude. I want to remind you that if you didn’t sign up to receive your monthly gratitude list that it’s not too late, I’m still offering monthly lists. Tomorrow, December 1st I will be sending out December’s list, so be sure to sign up here!

Now, on to dialogue. Dialogue is one of the most important pieces of your novel and it’s why some editors/agents skip write to a section of your manuscript--that has dialogue, and begin the critiquing process right there. If your dialogue is strong, they keep on reading, if it’s not, it’s over, to the slush pile it goes. Today, I have three tips to help you write strong and effective dialogue. Make sure you read all the way to the end because I have a special treat for you.

If you’re more visual, you can check out this week’s video on the same topic here:

Tip #1: Avoid Adverbs

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We all love to use adverbs like “grimly” but, this is a big no-no because it’s a way of explaining our dialogue. Think of it in these terms, if you have to explain your dialogue, then more often than not, your dialogue doesn’t work. There are exceptions, like softly or clearly, for you don’t say something grimly in the same way you say something softly.

Tip #2: Said is the Best Tag

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We often get creative with our tags, but nothing works better than “said.” Anything else, is a form of explaining, for example, “He snapped.” Your dialogue should convey that the character has “snapped” without needing the tag as explanation.

Tip #3: Beat Anyone?

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Using a beat breaks up the dialogue and helps your reader get further immersed in the scene. For example, you can write something like this:

“But you promised,” Jess said.

“I don’t make promises,” Dave said.

“Stop fighting,” Tom said.

This could get a bit boring, but it’s necessary to add the tag because there are more than two people in the scene. But, if you add a beat, it breaks up the dialogue and helps the reader not get distracted by all the “said.”

“But you promised,” Jess said.

“I don’t make promises,” Dave said.

Tom walked over to Jess and Dave, placed his hands on their shoulders and said, “Stop fighting.”

That’s a beat!

If you want more tips like this, I created a checklist that delves deeper into this topic. In it, I provide more examples and offer detailed tips on how to create the perfect dialogue in your story. If you would like to get your copy click here for instant access.

If you haven’t done so already, I would love for you to hop on over to my YouTube channel and subscribe. I share weekly tips on writing, publishing and living with joy.

Also, if you’re passionate about setting and reaching goals, my book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principle for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave is the perfect companion for you. In it, you will learn valuable lessons that will help you reach all your goals.

Until Next Time!

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Christmas Shopping 2017 at Barnes and Noble

November 23, 2017

Happy Thanksgiving! This is my favorite holiday by far. I love the gathering of family and friends, the tradition of watching the Macy’s Day Parade, the preparing of the feast AND eating, of course. I hope that your day is filled with love and joy.

Since the holiday season is officially upon us, and you’ll probably be doing some shopping at some point this weekend. I wanted to share with you some gift ideas for the book lover and/or writer in your life. 

As I always do, I went to Barnes & Noble this past weekend and I was so excited to find that they had broken out their holiday merch. So, the following are some of the items I found that would make the perfect gift for your Barnes & Noble lover.

If you're more visual, you can hop on over to my YouTube channel as I vlogged about my visit.

First up is one of my favorite things to do while writing or reading a book: having a pillow, a blanket and comfy socks. These are great items to have during the holiday season as it will make your house seem bright and cheerful, while also providing warmth during the winter months.

 

Most of us are already starting to think about our goals for next year so getting a calendar/planner for yourself or your loved one is a great early gift, or Christmas gift.

This was such a cute find! They're literary totes with quotes from popular literary works, and I think your book buff will love this.

Next up is calligraphy, who doesn't want to turn back the time and write with a feather? I'm determined to get one of these sets and get my calligraphy on. This would make such a cool gift for any writer who loves writing on paper, and not just digitally.

I happen to be one of those writers that loves to put pen to paper. In fact, the first draft of my novel Falling For You was written on a legal pad. So, it comes as no surprise that I think these composition books would make a perfect gift for the writer in your family.

By far, out of everything I saw, this was my favorite item. These are envelopes dedicated to different people in your life, as you can see below. They had others like, Letters to My Graduate, or to My Bride, or to My Child. As you can see from the picture, these were my favorites, which I plan on using and giving to one special someone!

That's it, I hope I gave you some unique gift ideas for your special someone and that you enjoyed my trip to the best bookstore on the planet. Remember, if you want to see the video of me at Barnes and Noble, hop on over to YouTube and remember to subscribe!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING

Until Next Time!

How to Take Action Toward Your Goals

November 14, 2017

Are you waiting for the right moment to come before doing what you want? For example, taking the vacation of your dreams? Moving to a new city? Taking a new job? Starting a YouTube channel?

Most of us have this thing—big or small, that we desire to do; yet, we are holding off until the stars align. The problem with this is that we don’t realize that the moment our desire was placed in us, the stars began to align. These so-called stars will not truly form until we begin to take steps to fulfill our desire. But why is it that most of us sit back and wait for the perfect circumstance to appear before we take action? I believe fear is obviously at the root of this waiting game.
 
The danger in waiting for the “perfect moment” is that IT may never come. There’s always going to be something that comes between us and that thing we want. If we allow fear to immobilize us, we may never achieve what we want, again big or small. We must be willing to jump before we are ready. 

In Lisa Nichols' book Abundance Now she gives an example of jumping before you’re ready.   She explains how people who jump out of planes jump out way before the parachute opens. “They fall a long way before achieving safety.  They have to give themselves this permission--to fall before they open their parachutes and soar.”

Nichols believes “jumping, regardless of the outcome is the real problem.” I agree with her. I believe this is at the core of why we sit by the side-lines, watching as others get to live the life we want. We are so afraid of the outcome: what if it’s not what I want? What if it’s exactly what I want and somehow my life changes? These thoughts confine us and make us live small.

Imagine this for a moment: Jumping before you’re ready.

I have a call to action this week: to simply do one thing you’ve wanted to do, and go for it without thinking of the outcome. You want to go swimming in the ocean but have been avoiding it because, well, doing so means wearing a bathing suit, and people will look at you! Simply go to the ocean and swim and don’t wait to lose the weight. Letting go of the outcome means forgetting those awful negative thoughts and just doing what you want in that moment. That moment of action will lead you to the next. Then the next. Until you are finally a person who doesn’t sit back and let life pass you by--waiting for the “right moment.” The right moment is now!
 
If you want a little help and want to start aligning with your own purpose, then check out my book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principles for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave. It's a perfect place to start considering your thoughts and the way you live your life

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How to Find Your Authentic Voice

November 7, 2017

Happy Tuesday you guys, this is actually a funny intro because I got the idea for this post while watching myself on YouTube! LOL. how’s that for egotism.

Okay, all kidding aside, I think I’ve finally got it. For years, I’ve heard that the key to success is to be authentic. And for years, I thought I was being authentic, but I still felt like something was missing—like I knew I was being authentic, but then the “real me” knew I wasn’t. The real me knew that I was doing things to please others, instead of pleasing myself.

When it comes to writing, your business or networking, I’m telling you, the only way to be is authentic; by doing so, you will eliminate most—if not all—pressure from your life. Let me explain.

I recently created a freebie for my subscribers: a simple printable. It’s a 30 day calendar designed to my liking, which for me, included images that pertained to each month’s theme, for example this month is Thanksgiving and fall. The point of the printable was certainly more important than the design—or so I thought. The printable is a gift to my subscribers, as a thank you for being part of my community; in return they have one easy-to-fill-in calendar where they can write 5 things they are grateful for each day. Want to sign up? Click here.

Anywho, I loved designing this so much that I already created the next four months based on each month’s theme. However, as I was designing the form I started to do the usual, “well, I like this, but what if others prefer this or that.” I caught myself in the nick of time, thankfully. And this is where it all began: my finally getting that all I need to worry about when I’m creating is if I like it. I will never please everyone, and there are lots of people out there that like the same things I do, and those are the people that will choose to be part of my community.

We are not for everyone, but we are for someone. Please yourself first, and others will join you. Trying to be like someone else only causes confusion within yourself and your brand.

So, if you’ve been struggling with finding your way in this expansive universe, here are four things I recommend you do to get back on track:

  1. Stop worrying about what others are doing.
  2. Don’t worry if someone will “like” what you’re doing.
  3. Don’t look for others doing the same thing as you (uniqueness is good).
  4. Be you, you are enough. Your ideas, your likes, are good

The next time you begin a project be sure to include only your likes, and leave everyone else out of it. I hope these tips help you find your own voice.

If you want a little help and want to start aligning with your own purpose, then check out my book #Believe Dammit: 10 Principles for Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave. It's a perfect place to start considering your thoughts and the way you live your life

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Until next time!

 

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